At first I thought this thread was going to get buried, but instead it’s turned out to be awesome. A lot of this stuff is just psychology, but it could get philosophical really quick.
Rick is right though. If you make it easy for people to take advantage of you, it will happen.
Throwing westerners into a world of eastern dating culture is a pretty interesting dynamic. As far as I understand, in Asia, society has been conditioned to be very homogenous. None of us would describe the average Chinese to be independent, unique, or express very much individuality relative to each other. So as a result the population of Chinese males is pretty identical, passive, and frankly, kind of feminine (just watch any Chinese MV). The only way to distinguish them from each other is by their social status, ie bank account (Audi? A4, A6, A8, R8?).
Enter, the western man. Stereotypically confident, wealthy, powerful, aggressive. They stand out in appearance and attitude in comparison to the weak, passive, socially awkward Chinese male. The Chinese woman is captivated (mostly the younger generations). It’s pretty easy to guess what happens next.
It’s pretty interesting to note that the perpetrator of this thread was called “charming.” I can’t imagine a “charming” Chinese guy. And this is in no way meant to be a diss of Chinese men (as I am one myself, maybe not culturally, maybe half culturally, I don’t even know). It’s just a consequence of the culture, which happens to go against the norms of natural selection, where the pack follows the alpha male.
That’s just my 两毛.
Also Chinese women can’t be accustomed to many Chinese players (though I’m sure there are some), just due to the numbers. There aren’t enough women to go around, so Chinese guys would be lucky to have one.